What you get
Older Friends With Benefits Features: Discovery & Dating
Everything you can do on Older Friends with Benefits, and what each membership adds.
Made for meeting, not for scrolling
Older Friends with Benefits gives you a handful of tools that do one job well: helping grown-ups find a no strings attached arrangement close to home.
You can search for naughty friends in your local area, look through suggestions picked for you each day, send a like or a message, and upload photos by computer or mobile phone. Nothing here needs a manual. If you can send an email, you can use the site.
Some tools come with every account and some come with a paid membership. This page sets out which is which. The prices for each plan are on our pricing page.
Use it on any screen
- Computer. The full site in any browser on a laptop or desktop, with room to read profiles properly.
- Phone and tablet. The same site in your mobile browser, and you can add it to your home screen so it opens like an app.
Your profile, messages and matches are the same wherever you log in, so you can flirt on the bus and reply properly at home.
Three ways to be a member
Classic
What every account gets: a full profile, browsing, daily match suggestions, status updates and photos, comments, polls, a set number of messages each day, replies to VIP and VIP Plus members, and free ID verification.
VIP
Everything in Classic, plus unrestricted messaging, advanced search filters by city and distance, members-only chat rooms, private group chats for up to 50 people, the chance to rewind a pass and see everyone who likes you.
VIP Plus
Everything in VIP, plus exclusive matches, your messages and likes placed first, the top spot in other members' daily suggestions, and the option to add profile boosts and Super Matches.
Find the membership that suits you
| Feature | Classic | VIP | VIP Plus |
|---|---|---|---|
| Profile, photos and browsing | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Daily match suggestions | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Messages | A set number a day | Unrestricted | Unrestricted |
| Reply to VIP messages | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| ID verification and badges | Yes | Yes | Yes |
| Advanced search filters | No | Yes | Yes |
| Chat rooms and private group chats | No | Yes | Yes |
| See who likes you | No | Yes | Yes |
| Exclusive matches, priority placement | No | No | Yes |
| Profile boosts and Super Match (add-ons) | No | No | Yes |
Matches that fit your life
Every day the site suggests members it thinks you'll get on with. The suggestions weigh the things that matter for an arrangement like this one, including:
- the age range you're interested in
- how far away people live
- the kind of relationship you want, from casual to friendship and more
- how recently someone was active
- lifestyle habits such as drinking and smoking, and shared interests
The suggestions open the door; your profile does the rest. Our guide to writing a friends with benefits profile that gets replies will help.
Super Match
VIP Plus members can add Super Matches. A Super Match arrives in a bright, eye-catching style, your profile is seen first, and the other person can reply straight back. It's a bold move for when you really like the look of someone.
Get to know people before you meet
A good arrangement starts with liking the person, not just the photo. These tools let you see a little more of someone first.
The discovery feed
A scroll of posts, photos and articles from members near you or who share your interests. Post something yourself and it's an easy way for people nearby to notice you and start a conversation.
Chat rooms and group chats
VIP members can join moderated live chat rooms, and set up private group chats with up to 50 people, which suits anyone organising a get-together without handing out a phone number.
Articles and posts
Write a post or a longer piece, a hot take, a true story or a bit of fiction, and show a side of yourself a profile photo never could. Other members can like it and comment.
Member ratings
Every member has a rating that others can vote up or down after talking to them. It rewards people who reply and behave well, and it helps you spot them.
Checks that build trust
- Free ID verification comes with every membership and puts a badge on your profile once you've passed.
- Video verification is a live check with a moderator that confirms you are who you say, without any documents.
- Admin profile validation has a member of the team review and approve your profile, again without paperwork.
- Age assurance estimates age automatically, with further checks where the law requires them.
All of these are optional, so look for the badges when you choose who to meet. Read more on our safety page.
What people ask about the features
Can I use Older Friends with Benefits on my phone?
Yes. The whole site works in your phone's browser, and you can add it to your home screen so it opens like an app.
What does VIP add?
Unrestricted messaging, advanced search filters, chat rooms, private group chats and the ability to see everyone who likes you. VIP Plus adds priority placement and exclusive matches on top.
How do I get a verified badge?
Take the ID check from your account. It costs nothing on any membership, and the badge appears on your profile once you've passed.
See it for yourself
Make your profile in minutes and see who catches your eye nearby. Every plan is on our prices page.
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