Older women
Older Women Friends With Benefits: Her Rules, Her Fun
For women who want sex and company without running anyone's life, and the men who appreciate them.
Do older women like friends with benefits?
Plenty do, and for good reasons. A friend with benefits gives a woman in her forties, fifties or sixties the part of a relationship she enjoys, the flirting, the touch and the sex, without the part she may have done for decades: looking after someone else's house, meals and moods.
It isn't a lesser option or a consolation prize. For many women it's the arrangement that fits a life they've worked hard to build. They keep their own home, their own money and their own friends, and they decide when the next meeting happens.
The women you'll meet here
The women on Older Friends with Benefits are mostly aged 35 to 54, with a smaller group aged 65 and over. Here's how their ages break down:
Age shares of the women on the site, from our member records.
Most of the men are 55 and over, so a woman in her forties who likes an older, more experienced partner will find plenty of choice. A woman who prefers someone her own age or younger can set her search that way.
Why it works so well for women over 40
Independence stays intact
A woman who has raised children, run a home or come out of a long marriage often has no wish to merge her life with someone else's again. An arrangement lets her enjoy a man's company on a Friday and have the whole of Saturday to herself.
Confidence grows with age
By 50 a woman usually knows her body far better than she did at 25, and is far more willing to ask for what she wants. A friends with benefits arrangement rewards exactly that kind of honesty.
No pretending
On a mainstream dating app a woman who says she wants something casual can attract the wrong kind of attention. Here, casual is what the site is for, so she can say it plainly and be taken at her word.
A fresh start after a big change
Divorce, separation or the loss of a partner can leave a woman wanting closeness without the commitment of a new relationship. Our guide to friends with benefits after divorce covers that stage in detail.
Women stay in control
- Pictures on your terms. Explicit images arrive blurred with a warning, so nothing lands in front of you unless you choose to look.
- No address, no surname. Members see a username and your nearest town, never your real name, email or where you live.
- One tap to end it. Block anyone and they can no longer see you or message you.
- A badge to look for. Members who pass the ID check carry a verified badge, which is a good filter when you're choosing who to meet.
Every protection is set out on our safety page.
Men who want an older woman
Men who simply prefer older women, for their confidence, their humour and the way they know what they want, are very welcome here. If that's you, younger or older, a few habits will set you apart.
Read her profile first
Mention something she wrote. It shows you're interested in her, not just in the idea of her.
Say what you want, politely
Be clear that you're after something regular and relaxed, then let her set the pace.
Never send pictures unasked
It's against the house rules and it's the quickest way to be blocked.
Make meeting easy for her
Suggest somewhere public that suits her, at a time that suits her, and don't take a no personally.
New to this? Start with our profile tips and our advice on the first meeting.
Older women and friends with benefits
Where can I meet older women for friends with benefits?
On a site where casual is the starting point. On Older Friends with Benefits the women are mostly aged 35 to 54, and you can search by town and distance to find someone near you.
Do older women want younger men?
Some do and some don't. Each woman sets the age range she's interested in, so a respectful message to someone whose range includes you is always worth sending.
Is it safe for a woman to meet a friend with benefits?
Take the usual care: chat on the site first, have a quick video call, meet in public, make your own way there and tell a friend where you'll be.